You lack boundaries, not because you’re too nice…

You lack boundaries, not because you’re too nice, but because you struggle with self-worth. 

I remember when I first begin to out boundaries around my time and energy. It was SO uncomfortable. I actually remember trying to justify that I didn’t need boundaries, it was okay for me to just say yes all the time. 

That was until someone else showed me differently. I heard a mom say, “When I say yes to something, I am also saying no to something else.” And I very quickly saw the trade-offs I was making. 

When I said yes to volunteering on the evenings or weekends, I was saying no to time with my kids. 

When I was saying yes to the all the things at home, I was saying no to me time. 

I lacked boundaries because I didn’t believe I was worth the time or energy. 

Once, I was able to see things differently, I fought for those boundaries. I begin to say no and was uncomfortable for only a few minutes, instead of being resentful later. 

For me, that boundaries are a sign of self-respect and love. I know that when I stand by my boundaries, I am better in every area of my life.