Deep love

If you avoid deep pain, you also avoid deep love.

As a military wife, I move around a lot (more than some, less than others), but I am grateful for this.

I’m grateful because I know I don’t have a lot of time to make great long lasting friends, so I cut through the BS and go deep with people pretty quickly.

I have deep relationships with people all around the world and with a single phone call, we pick up as if we never missed a beat.

For instance, this is my incredible friend Jessica. We have a very entertaining story of how we met, but it didn’t take us long to build a deep friendship. I remember the moment vividly.

We were sitting in her kitchen, while our children played, and we watched this beetle struggle on its back. There was no judgement, no shame, but we knew from that moment we’d be friends forever.

She moved to FL last June and I cried for days when she left. I cried because I wouldn’t be able to see her as often and I knew our families would miss each other dearly.

And although it hurts that she’s not 15 minutes away any more, the depth of our friendship is worth the hurt.

I could have been caution in building the relationship with her for fear I’d move or she would move, (as I had done in previous relationships) but I would have missed out on the deep love we have for one another as women, moms, wives, all the roles we play.

I desire deep love and connection in this life and I know that also comes with deep pain, but its worth it to me. and that deep connection starts with the relationship I have with myself.