Let life surprise you…

My husband loves to surprise me.

But if I’m honest, I’ve spent a good part of our marriage “hating” the surprises.

And simply because I felt safer being a control freak.

And my guess is many of you can relate to this…

I felt more comfortable in what was predictable, in what I could control, than the thought of giving up the control for the possibility of something better because at least I wouldn’t be disappointed by the lesser thing I expected.

And as it turned out, I counted on being disappointed. And so I was constantly disappointed, by myself and every one around me.

So this weekend, as I celebrated my 40th birthday, I felt myself wanting to take the reigns of the operation to ensure I wasn’t disappointed. Multiple times, I was convinced my husband had done nothing for me.

But I surrendered and worked hard to not plan my own surprise party.

On Saturday afternoon as my husband and I sat on the couch and he asked me again what I wanted to do, I could feel my annoyance rising. I said, I already told you. And shortly after when some of our friends began to arrive, I started to feel hopeful that my husband didn’t forget about me…

But then as he threw burgers on the grill, I thought I’d lose it. I mean, this felt like any other Saturday night. My inner child began to throw a temper tantrum and I thought to myself he will surely pay for this later…

I again told myself to relax…

And soon after the limo arrived.

We had an incredible time parading around town and dancing the night away!!

I say all this because, the solution to your “problem” most likely doesn’t entail micromanaging things a bit more. The solution is probably asking you to surrender and trust in order to allow space for the solution you’re seeking.

Relax. And let life surprise you.